I'm dating a girl who is very attractive, however I've been having problems getting her to communicate with me about sex.
We don't seem to be overly sexually compatible, compared to my last girlfriend who was very open to trying almost anything and wasn't afraid of telling me what she liked.
Firstly, while I am happy to give oral sex and do so regularly, she does not reciprocate. I haven't tried talking to her about this because I wouldn't know what to say and don't want to be pushy if she doesn't like it. I have no idea why she doesn't do it, so how should I approach the issue? I have no problem giving to her. I like doing it.
Secondly, she doesn't seem to be very experimental. It usually begins with missionary.... and ends with missionary, nothing in between. I have tried taking control etc.. and changing positions but she isn't very responsive to any of them and enjoys missionary the most I think. I've tried asking her which positions she prefers but she isn't forthcoming and I don't think she likes to verbalize what she likes. Makes it hard to please her when she won't tell me what she prefers...
Which leads me to my next point... I haven't been able to make her orgasm. The closest I've come to making it happen is through oral sex, but she always stops me just when it seems it's starting to become good for her. I don't understand this. For me, this is very important and I want to make her feel good. But without her communicating with me and telling me what she likes this is very difficult. My last girlfriend was constantly communicating with me in bed, telling me to speed up, slow down, higher, lower etc etc and she had an orgasm almost every time we had sex which was great.
We've slept together about 7 or 8 times, and I'm starting to become frustrated with the situation. As a final point, she doesn't seem to be completely comfortable with her body and doesn't like me seeing her naked in light... I mean, during sex obviously.. but when she gets changed she always turns off the light so I can't see her. She has a nice body so I am puzzled by this.
Any advice would be good! Thanks.