I am in the process of making some changes in my life which includes giving my wife the divorce she says she wants. I recently found notes and letters (fell out of a storage box) of hers from a month before we got married. They basically state that she did not love me but I was the best "husband" material. Through the years she has indicated she wants a divorce unless I change but she can never say specifically what I need to change. So she has lied about loving me from day one. I did find that she lied about several things from her past, and they aren't things that she needs to hide. Overall she claims she never lies, she stands strong on everything out of principle, and has high morals. I've tried marriage counseling with her, she will go a few times and then never return, one therapist said she really needs some help. I'm not perfect either. Should love be a key ingredient in a marriage?
Question 1: Should I be concerned that she told her friends & journal before we got married that she didn't love me?
Question 2: Is there any chance that confronting her on this can be beneficial?
Question 3: Is divorce a good option?