Be confident and don't feel the need to say too much or ask too many questions. She needs to respect you and see you as self confident and not lacking self-esteem. But you can't come off as an ass or sarcastic or like you are acting. Be yourself, be positive(always) and keep it light. I am in the same position and did all the wrong things at first as well trying to profess my love for her to the world. Well this was mainly because she told me I wasn't paying enough attention to her and didn't love her the way she wanted to be loved. Well when I tried it pushed her away. Now I don't pick up on her calls until the second or third and try to not call her myself but once every few days at the most. When I do I never leave a message. That seems to be a good thing too, stay mysterious and don't spill your guts on the voice mail or recorder. Make her curious. These seem to have helped me considerably as she called 7 times today and she is dating someone else or at least was.
If these don't work then she has either lost interest in you or never really had it in you. If she still has some interest in you maybe she doesn't realize it because you are readily available and you show her too much interest and attention. If she likes you and you make yourself a challenge she will respond. If she doesn't like you enough to move towards you then she won't respond. People vote with their feet, if she wants to spend time with you, she will, if not, she won't. I read a book and he said the people in East Germany would climb the wall to seek their freedom thus they voted with their feet. Why? Because they had a high interest in freedom, they voted with their feet because their interest in freedom was strong. People will always vote with their feet and if she wants to be with you, she will, if not you can't make her want to with begging or trying to convince her of things. She may be confused and come back out of pity but then it will never work out in the end anyway. If you try too hard and come off as a wimp she will lose respect for you and you can never get that back once it is lost. Good luck!
Last edited by imokurnot; 27-12-04 at 08:15 AM.
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