My relationship with this girl started a little over a year ago when i was a senior in college and she was a freshman. We were both on the track team together. A bout a month into the year I asked her out on a date and we sort of hit it off. We hung out a lot for about a month but never got physical as i have no "game" and she wanted to wait. Anyways after one night where we stayed up late talking some dude asked her if she was ready to date me. So, the next day she told me that she did not want to start a relationship with me that would likely end in may. She had just been through a tough breakup with her high school boyfriend. Anyways she was upset that i would not be her friend anymore. I said i would but only did so to keep trying to get her to be my girlfriend.
The next semester i got her to give me another shot and finally got my kiss from her. But after a few weeks again she shut it down and it turned out that she was still in love with that high school boyfriend. The next week at a party i walk in on her making out with a stranger at a party and i flipped out on her. We didn't talk for a week but it was the end of the school year and i did not want to graduate with any bad feelings towards people so i tried to mend things. So, we got along well for the last few weeks and went out to lunch and a walk before graduation as sort of our last hoorah.
When i got home we called eachother on the phone and talked online. She kept saying how important it was to her to keep in touch. Early on in the summer I had to make a trip down to school on the way to a trip and was there for a day and she took off work and met me there for the day. When i passed through on the way back again she took work off early and spent some time with me again. During this time my former coach had called me and asked if I wanted to come back as an assistant coach which was something that i was interested in doing. I couldn't turn down the offer first because it's hard to get your foot in the door and also so i could get another shot at the girl. However it would be more complicated as i would be her coach...
She was one of the first people i called when i accepted the job and she seemed excited that i would be her coach. I told her along with my other friend who i was coaching that i wanted to be their friend first and coach second. Anyways we didn't really talk the rest of summer as she was busy with work the week i was there to figure the coaching thing. So, i didnt see her untill the first week of practice. For the first part of this fall I kinda felt things out and didnt make any advances and only really talked to her at practice. Then late one night she texts me telling me that she misses parts of last year. When i asked what she ment by that she kind of blew it off and said she didnt want me to risk my job to talk to her in person. However a few weeks later during a long weekend i was running a race and she said she wanted to come with me. The race was 1.5 hours away so we probably wouldnt be seen. So we drive to the race and then go out to lunch afterwards. At lunch she tells me about how she likes this kid (the one who told her not to date me last fall actually) and has pretty much decided to be with him. I kind of pushed that aside and we had a great day. We are almost home and we see the sun setting and she suggests that we watch it set. So we do that and she starts talking about how well we get along together and how she wished that she was older and then could be an assistant coach with me and dateing me. The she asked if we could be friends still. I said "sure but is that all you really want?" She said she did want more but didn;t think it was possible with me being coach. Anyways i drop her off and she is tears saying that if she goes out with this kid she ruins thing with me. I go to be thinking i confused her.
The next day at a team function i see her texting and calling this other guy so i ask her afterwords if the previous day was our last hoorah and if she had made a decision about the other guy. She said she had. I was pretty upset after this.
However a few weeks go by and i find out that she and this dude never really worked out. I also have gotten her to come over to my apartment to hang out a couple times. And recently my gradmother got sick and died and she was there to comfort me without me asking her to do that.
So, this is my story. I hope it was as entertaining as it was long haha. My problem now is i have to decide if i should stay and coach another year. It is what i want to do and where i want to coach but i don't want to be teased by her for another year. Not to mention the fact that a relationship with her may not be possible with me being her coach(i think its ok because we had a relationship before i became her coach but who knows what the powers that be think). However, i can't help but think that she really cares for me and that someday things will work out. As much pain as she can cause me whenever we have been together we have had a great time and it is certainly not because of sex (we have only kissed that one time). Also if i do leave i don't want her to think that she was the reason i left, which she would be. People have told me to stop talking to her but as her coach i cannot do that and have to see her everyday. It is impossible to forget about her when i see her at practice eveyday.
Thanks for any help and for reading all of this.