Hi guys,
I'm new to this forum. I just wanted to get opinions on this relationship I am in. It's not really been an issue for me until the last couple of days. I will explain why, it might be long.... I really appreciate feedback though.
Over a year ago I met an older man. I was attracted from the very moment I saw him, thought I had no chance with him. Well, he was attracted straight away as well. It took about two months of talking and flirting until he made a move. That was August last year. I didn't want a relationship (and didn't know him well) at the time, but we did discuss that. He is divorced with a kid, and said he was done with relationships for now.
Time moves forward, and we become friends with benefits. Sometimes we see eachother three days in a row, sometimes we don't see eachother for two weeks, sometimes we go on holidays together, sometimes we just hang out as friends and have a great time and there is nothing romantic or sexual about it. We just get along so well. Everything has been perfect as far as "relationships" go. All the while, he tells me not to date, I'm too young, etc. He never tells me any of his feelings, but I like him for this, as it has been the most breezy, uncomplicated, FUN, effortless relationship I've ever had.
So about a month ago, I finally start to fall for him. I think this is because he warms up to me even more. He starts contacting me more, we talk every day, he calls me baby, he looks after me when I am sick... He is a great friend and obviously likes me a lot.
What now? Well the other day, he tells me his ex-wife broke up with her partner, and she has to live with him for awhile until she finds soemwhere else. That, and he is now full-time dad instead of part-time.
This sort of shook me a bit, and I told myself that this 'relationship' has now run it's course and it's time to just start seeing him as a friend.
Well, that lasted a day. The next day he wants to go out and he stays at my house. The day after that we go on a date. All this time I feel he doesn't want "me" but he wants "somebody" and we are just comfortable I guess.
So I do have feelings for him, however I don't want a relationship. Do I just keep doing what I'm doing? I'm happy, but a bit confused sometimes about it. I enjoy my time with him a lot and wouldn't like to lose him.
Should I just phase out? I mean, I will be heartbroken, but I'll get over it like anything else.
I just want to know what YOU would do, and your opinions. Thanks.
By the way, this is the first time I have ever felt any feelings for anyone, since my first ever relationship which ended two years ago.