- Kaius said: You guys are not ready to be adults financially.
- Cerby said: But I do agree that if you're not in a position financially to live on your own, then you shouldn't complain about the arrangements you have.
- Devonbrown said: And unfortunately, since you two are living there rent-free, you sort of have to take the bad with the good.
- Boisdevie said: If you live with parents then they decide the rules. The only other solution is to earn enough money to rent a place of your own.
I agree with all of the above. Since the economy is so bad, you have to compromise. Save your money for your own apartment. The only thing I would add is get any job that pays fairly decent wages, and use that to save up money and pay for rent. You have to do whatever you can to survive. Sometimes that means taking temp jobs not in your field of study.
What are the fields of study (majors) for you both?
You don't realize it, but your parents have these rules to "encourage" you to move out on your own.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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