I need advice, please!
I have a problem and I'm hoping someone on here has been in a similar situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 1.5 years. I know he loves me. I do not doubt his feelings for me. I love him too. The problem is that every time I bring up the issue of commitment, and I mean simply moving in together, not even marriage, he starts getting emotional and says how he's not sure if he can commit because I am his first relationship. He is 31. I am almost 30. This has happened twice already. Both times he has mentioned how he doesn't know if he can commit because he hasn't been with anyone else. He even saw a therapist and she asked him if anything would change if he had other relationsihps and he said he didn't think so. I also asked him what he means by other relationships. Does he wish he had more physical relationships (shorter term relationships) or long term relationsihps. He says it doesn't matter. He just wishes he had more experiences. He's a great guy and has almost everything I'm looking for, but he is making me feel insecure.
I'm concerned about the fact that he feels he can't commit because he hasn't been with anyone else. When we talk about it and I suggest a break or that he needs to be with someone else in order to not have these feelings, he starts crying and begs me not to leave. He says he can't live with out me and won't find anyone else like me. I can tell he is being sincere and that he truly loves me very much and doesn't want to lose me. But what do I do about the fact that every time I have brought up commitment he started crying that he hasn't had any other relationships and isn't sure how he can commit. I guess what he means is that even though he feels like I'm the right girl for him (he even says he feels I'm the right one) he feels like he needs to have other experiences. I'm not sure if it's a guy thing but I feel like if you truly believe you found the right person you shouldn't feel like you want to be with others and commitment should not be an issue. Should I give him more time and wait? Any thoughts, especially from men?