Hello There!
Very soon my wife and I will be turning ten years married. Things have changed a lot since then, thus, we are both very frustrated, sad, and drained. I met my wife, as I mentioned earlier, ten years ago. At the time, I was very lonely. Not to mention that I have never been the cassanova type of guy. We started dating and decided to marry a year after. Sometime during the fourth or fifth year our sex life declined and it continued to declined gradually to the point where sex was not part of our lives anymore.
Unlike most men in this forum, the problem was basically me. As I said before, our sex life declined, then my attention started to focus towards other woman. It kinda bothered me because I knew it was wrong, but I couldn't help to appreciate the beauty on other girls. Honestly, I never cheated on my wife and as of today I have not traspassed that line, even though I crave for raunchy/crazy/wild sex. However, I'm finding myself very unhappy and so does she. She's a very sexual woman, but I can't fake it. When we were on bed, my penis would just shrink. And is that I can have sex if I'm not into that person. I'm afraid to tell her because this would hurt her very much. In Addition, we have a year old baby boy and I honestly feel that my life is over. I can't find myself leaving them, but we have become roomates. I lust other woman and for the life of me I wish I could feel the same for her. We have tried counseling, tricks, toys, oils, you name it we have done it. However, nothing has worked.
I guess my question is this. Is it possible to regain the lost love and sex drive you once had for your spouse? Keep in mind that I'm 45 and she's 41. Not that matters, but is to clear any questions in reagrds of immaturity...........any feedback would be appreciated.
Many regards!