I don't know if I mentioned this before but I had a date yesterday...the last one of 2010 and probably the last one for a long time (at least from a dating website).
As a few people suggested I'm gonna let it flow from now on and if love must happen it will have to find me and not the other way 'round.
My last date yesterday finished off what was left of my faith in finding the one.
He was 45, a good looking 45 year old...not married but lived for 10 years with a woman he has 2 children with. they are now separated.
Kevin was intelligent, attractive and we talked about many things...there was a big downside though...from what I understood his physical relationship with his the mother of his children was very poor (apparently sex hurt her literally) so they never had a fulfilling relationship on that level...he just accepted it and of course over time they drifted away.
Since their split he has been invoved with a divorced mother of 3 children..and they got on so well sexually that it was a revelation to him...he was very happy...
Apparently (I keep saying apparently because I always take people's recount of their past love life with a pinch of salt) they split up because she coud not invest in a future with him due to her responsibilities as a mother it was just too much for her)..
So this is his background. Now during our conversation, he kept coming back to that one subject 'sex' and my view on it and whether I liked it...I mean he sugar-coated it but it was pretty much his point: to determine my level of interest in 'it', my past as a lover and blablabla...
So really I can see where he was coming from...I mean I've read enough of posts on here written by married guys deprived of sex by their wife for years...and I can measure how unhappy they are and how low it makes them feel...I can imagine how this could become a major criteria when they date again but....
For me it was a huge turn off to be quizzed on it on a first night....am I a prude? and what do you think?