While getting to know my boyfriend, I asked him if he ever had sex (he's 37 yrs old, and so I was really expecting he did many times) and he said no, he never had.
Later on we were just talking in normal conversation, and i told him how important honesty is to me. He took a big sigh and said he has something to tell me. He told me he had sex with his last girlfriend once. He said he didn't want to lose me and that's why he lied, especially since i never had sex before.
I was hurt he lied but let it go. i told him i appreciate his honesty. But then I kept thinking, how could someone have sex "just once" with their last girlfriend. I felt like he was lying...so I told him how its possible to do it just once with someone you're dating for 9 months. And again he came clean and said ok, we had sex like twice...twice in the same day, that's all.
I lost trust in him, and he said you should give me another chance. But why would he lie to me when I don't care how many times he had sex, all i want is someone honest and i told him this over and over again. So i gave it another shot. And again somehow in conversation I probed him more cause I really want to gain trust in him and see his eyes when he tells me and i really hate lies.Then he said ok i had sex a few times with her but less than 10 times.
Then he got mad and said I shouldn't even be asking him this. I agreed. But i told him normally I never ask a guy how many times he had sex before...but the whole issue got started when he lied to me about never having sex at all...and then started putting numbers on the number of times.
Aggh.... Its not the sex that bothers me..its the LIES. i am so attracted to this guy, but how can i gain his trust again?