Hi all!
I recently began a long distance relationship and it has seemingly been going quite well. We had a very long and open discussion about the difficulties of pursuing it due to the distance etc etc but both eventually decided it was something we thought was worth the risks. So my feelings after that discussion was that it's something she really wants given what she said etc etc.
Now the strange part. She doesn't like clingy and neither do I which is great but I still send her a message over fb once a day just to ask how she is going etc etc but I have noticed recently that she will reply to others messages and more or less forget mine until maybe a few hours later or so if at all, however if she does reply it's usually the whole "look forward to talking to you <3" stuff.
When she comes online (we usually chat and video chat over msn) she never seems overly excited to talk and I pretty much need to keep the conversation going. However she always wants to video chat and when we do she seems to get more excited and want to chat more and all that jazz.
So it's strange, on the outside it almost appears like she is not that interested however during and after a chat on msn it still seems like she is really excited about it.
Perhaps she is almost testing me? Is she ignoring my fb posts to intentionally strain things a little to judge my reaction and reinforce that this is something which could work (we both told each-other it would be difficult and would have to go lengthy periods without contact).
I guess my biggest concern is not doing enough to make her feel like I want this because I would be happy to forget the fb messages each day and just chat the few times a week we get the opportunity online but I am worried she will feel like things are dimming out and going nowhere or that I am not that interested.
Oh and she came after me as well so she knew the difficulties before I did.
Anyway I am probably looking into it far too much but that are just strange signals to me to seem disinterested one minute and the complete opposite the next. But as long as I know the latter is how she feels about it the majority of the time then I will not care, but I am worried she is second guessing herself quite a lot.