Hi All,
Well this is my first time posting, so I will do my best to explain.
I'm after some advice about my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend 2 years and we are serious. By that I mean that we stay over each others three or four times a week most weeks, I'm friends with his friends who are mostly couples etc.
However, I brought the subject of moving in together back in April which really took him by surprise. I only wanted to bring it up and wasn't expecting to move in anytime soon. I just wanted to see if it was a option.
He said he does seeing us going there and certainly he has referred to getting married etc then in time, and has since referred to the bigger picture since then.
We both have our own places and are very independent.
I have since brought it up again, and I've told him that I'm ready to start discussing it and making plans, to which he said he wants to discuss it in the New Year. He also said that he is scared as he feels he is giving up his freedom.
I have to say, he doesn't go out on the town, so I know he isn't looking for anything better, he is just someone that likes his downtime, which I am the same, but I'm prepared to take the leap.
The advice I'm after is I thought moving in and making future plans should be exciting, however I can't help but feel he is reluctant to make plans. I don't want to nag him, as that isn't me.
Does he just need some time? I don't want to give ultimatums as I wouldn't want to force anything that he isn't ready for, but I won't sit around waiting forever for us to take the next step.
When I asked him what he was scared of, he replied "because I love you too much". His last two girlfriends he lived with went wrong, so I can understand he is being cautious.
I know he trusts me with his life, I'm just really confused over his resistance and would appreciate some advice.
Many thanks