I am pulling my hair out trying to figure out why my girlfriend is mad at me. We have been dating for two years and are very close. Or I guess I should say we were.
We have known each other long enough to have a very comfortable level of familiarity which is very nice. We can spend an evening sitting on a couch or out at a big event. Both are equally enjoyable for us. Two months ago we spent a very nice evening together. It was getting late and we were both hungry. We stopped at a diner just to grab a burger. Since we were both beat the conversation didn’t really focus on anything in particular. I think we talked about stuff like work and what errands we needed to run on the weekend.
At some point I felt her mood change considerably, from good to bad. At first I thought it was my imagination but when I walked her to her car and hugged her goodnight I asked, “What are you doing this weekend?”
She responded with, “I am going to my sister’s house.” Something in the tome of her voice stopped me dead in my tracks. It was like she had just said, “I am never going to see you again” without really saying it. There was a distinct vibe in her tone that left me stunned and confused. At first I told myself it was my imagination but that was two months ago and I can’t get her to talk to me.
Obviously something happened during that dinner that pissed her off but what? Some stupid comment on my part? While the evening was still fresh in my mind I couldn’t pinpoint what it was I had said. As I stated before we were exhausted and not talking about anything in particular. What could I have done that was so bad? It looks like a two year relationship is ending. It was like she looked over my shoulder and saw my face on a wanted poster with the words, “Serial Rapist” on it.
I decided to give her some space and not bug her about it for a while. But when I didn’t hear from her for two weeks I sent a very sincere e-mail stating that I knew she was mad at me and that I would like to apologize for whatever I did. I know with women that doesn’t win too many points because you want s to know what we did wrong but honestly ladies I am baffled. I told her our relationship is priceless to me and that I want to say I am sorry but she never responded. I sent another e-mail asking if she was mad at me but again nothing.
Now hear is what’s really painful, she answers superficial e-mails I send like “How was your weekend?” But anything pertaining to our relationship is ignored.
OK, I’m a stupid guy and we do stupid shit all the time without knowing it. I’ll admit that willingly. Guilty! But how can I apologize without knowing what I did? If I give her a sincere, heartfelt blanket apology will that be enough? I seriously don’t know what happened. She is my best friend and I miss her dearly.
Ladies please help! Maybe I am a jerk who did something but I would rather be chewed out, yelled at and called a complete asshole by her than deal with this killer silence.
Thanks for your input.