a little problem here...

[sneakerlover]

well...there's a girl who's interested in me...she's my classmate. but i just dont have any other intention other than to be just a friend. how should i confront her...i dont wana hurt her feelings...asian girls are quite sensitive...

pls help..

[Mathias]

Wow, that's not stereotypical at all.

[vashti]

The only think you can do is be honest with her. Yes, it will probably hurt her feelings, but it is better to not allow herself to think she might have a chance. This way, she can be sad and get over it, and then move on.

Just be kind. "I really like you, but I am not interested in more than friendship, and I don't expect my feelings about this will change. You deserve to have someone who makes you happy, so I am telling you not to waste your time on me."

[Ellynn]

Even though your gonna hurt her no matter how you handle it, its best to be honest but NICE about it.

I remember liking a guy so much back in the day. When I finally got the courage to say something to him about it, he was very nice about the situation. Either way I felt stupid, but at least he wasn't an @$$hole about it. He just politely told me that he wasn't looking for a relationship. At least I got that closure and he actually became one of my friends at the time.

Just try to put yourself in her situation. Think of how you would want to be treated.

[Gribble]

Been there, done that, and I wish I'd taken the advice I'm reading here. Be nice, let her off as easy as you can, and be her friend. It'll hurt her, but not nearly so much as finding out the truth after months of being lead on.

[Gigabitch]

Just make sure you don't do this in front of anyone else. This will be humiliating enough as it is without having to turn around and face her friends immediately.

How do you know she's interested anyway? Unless she's pressing you for a date, I'm not sure a confrontation is necessary.