Originally Posted by
namemyname
If you live in your parents house as an adult, as you are, then you live by their rules, and allow yourself to be infantilized.
She said she was middle eastern and some cultures over there, the youth or unmarried children don't leave until they do find a spouse. This can also be a religious thing too not just strictly cultural, so I don't think it's that she doesn't want to leave, some families have a heavy cultural background that is hard to break from and it can be one of two ways, do as your culture or religious preference raised you to be, or be shunned by your family. I don't know though for sure but I wouldn't be so harsh with that last part.
You two just need to step away, understand that you have feelings and get your life together, yours and his. I don't know your exact cultural background or religious preferences, if you have any at all but I would say to tell him to get his life together. If this is how I think it is, he would win your families approval if he could show he could care for you and not make you cry. I can't give you any clear advice though because I don't know the whole situation. All you said was middle eastern, that he made you cry and your mother flipped, but you live in Canada so I don't know how strong all this plays a part in your life. It sounds like he isn't a bad guy and maybe your mother misunderstood the situation? I don't know. More details would be helpful. :/
Why can't you move out exactly?
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