Long story short, my wife informed me about how her father back in Italy has become even weaker than before. Her mother has informed her this may very well be his last few months.
Now, my father-in-law is a very traditional man who had wanted someone to carry his last name. As he only had two daughters, he has been somewhat depressed at the prospect of not having his legacy carried. My wife is anguished by it as well as she has a close bond to her father.
Which brings me to the point. We have been married for two years and she kept her last name. Now, I want to know if it would be appropriate if I ask her if it's appropriate for me to change my last name to hers? It would allow our daughter (and any future children) to carry her family name and have husband+wife share the same last name.
Any thoughts? Also, can this be done legally? I'm not sure if there is a precedent set for men changing their last names so excuse my ignorance. As well, I was wondering if it would be appropriate the surprise her with this move or talk about it beforehand?