Hello So i've been wanting to as advice on this for a while, cause i feel lost.
I met a guy online back in June 2010. I know people don't believe in internet love and friendship, but I think it can happen. It happened to me before, we dated for a year, we ended up not being right for each other, but we have had some happy moments.
So, it happened to me again. I let it happen, with my stupid face, and i feel horrible about it. I met the guy and he was so interesting. I know this might sound crazy but he was unlike anyone I ever met. He wrote novels, listened to the same music as i did, loved animals, loved traveling, loved art and reading, was just a good guy. We skyped all the time and we called as well. The only problem was that he lived in Australia and I lived in Holland. Before we even liked each other we discussed our travelling plans for the next summer, and my plan was so go to Australia. Since he lived there he gave me a lot of information about where i wanted to go and we were super excited to meet up. I have to admit that the more I liked him, the more my trip became to revolve around meeting him, which was not healthy. We talked every day. He became one of my best friends, and I truly loved him as a friend. It wasnt like I was talking to a computer. Most of the time we just video chatted. It wasnt like we were only reading each others words, we were communicating verbally and we saw each other. I know this guy is special. After a while we realized how hard it was. My trip was still 6 months away and I could feel he was getting depressed cause of staying inside and being on the computer so much, and I was unhappy too. But I wanted him so badly and I just couldn't stop. He did stop though. We didn't talk for a couple of weeks and all of a sudden he had a girlfriend. He told me that he had never told me about her because he was afraid of my reaction and that he didn't know how to stop his feelings for her, knowing he never met me and knowing it could be completely different from what we expected. I know he didn't want things to end this way, but it hurts me so much that he's in love with someone and wants to be with her so bad. I also know this is not just a fling, I know he wants her. Typing that out just makes me so sad. We haven't talked much since January, but he's on my mind every day. Every now and then I get an email of him saying he misses me and still sees me as a friend, but I refuse to contact him and chat with him the way we used to, cause it's just too hard.
I tried so much to forget him. I deleted him from everything, and even tried to find a rebound. That rebound screwed me over and I don't even care, cause I don't feel much for him. I'm still going to Australia of course, but I don't know whether I should meet up with him or not. It's just weird that I'm going to be 1 hour away from his house and, should I just pass it and pretend I don't know that he lives right there? I don't know if I can do that. I so badly want to know what he's like, but I'm afraid he'll be the person I think he is and that I'll be so heart broken when I leave and never be able to forget him.
A part of me is laughing at myself for feeling this way about a guy I've never met. I know that these situations can make a person see things that aren't there, and maybe I am delusional for thinking he is the perfect guy, when he's not, but I know that we have a connection and I know that he's special to me. I just want to know if I should forget about him and erase him from my life completely, or if it's worth to meet up with him. I know I'm young, and I know he's probably not "the one", but ****ing hell, I just can't forget him. I feel like I look for him in every guy I meet, and I just want a guy who has as much with me in common as he does, and who thinks the way he does, and it's driving me insane. I want to know how to get over someone you can't possibly be with. I need advice