I am 37 and met this great woman in my class. We had been in classes together but I finally found the nerve to ask her out. Even before we went out, we talked to each other on the phone for hours (rare for me) and got real close. When we finally went out it was like a dream for both of us. I could be myself and be totally honest as could she.There was a spark between us and we fell in love only after a few weeks. I have dated quite a few woman and have been married before but never have I felt so close so fast to a woman. It all just felt so right.We would literally "make out" and both felt like we were back in High School! We spent almost all our available time together and were both happier than we had ever been.
There were a few issues though. She had been in a relationship with a deeply depressed guy for a year and had slowly been distancing herself from him and him from her.She was not happy with him and they had downgraded to the "friend" status a few months back.When we started dating she told him she was moving on and that it was best if they did'nt talk anymore.Of course he began stalking her,notes,emails,stopping by her house and leaving things.They had been in a bible study group together and she stopped going because of him.He has not bothered her in a few weeks because we filed a police report.
She was upset a week or go and after talking she said she was afraid that I would "run away" because of her activity in her church.I told her not only would I encourage her to go(she had not gone since we started dating)but that I would be open minded and go with her if she wanted.She had said numerous times that she missed the people at the bible study and that some of them would be at church.
A week ago I felt a change in her.She was'nt stone cold but was'nt as affectionate as usual, and it seemed that she wanted to spend time without me(we only get 2 days a week).
I went over her house Saturday and things seemed almost normal. She has been reading a book about co-dependency and has been confused as to why she had been in previous relationships with guys who had problems and could not give.When we woke up Sunday she said she had lots to do. We went to church together and it was rewarding.After church I asked her what was wrong and she said that she was confused and needed some time away from me, for herself. She does'nt know what is confusing her. She said that it did not have anything to do with me,but I am not sure if I should beleive her.She called me later that night and said that she needed time and this was only a speedbump in our relationship.She was confused but not sure what about.I tried to talk to her but she did not know the answers to my questions,I did not want to pressure her so I told her I would give her time.
I saw her today in class and she seemed so nervous,Her face was full of worry.I hugged her and gave her a kiss and told her to call me if she wants, but that she did'nt have to.She seemed uptight.
Well help me out ladies(or men) Can you fall out of love that quick? Is it normal for a woman to be totally in love one week and need some space the next? How should I handle it-I am backing off and giving her space because sometimes I talk too much and ask her what is wrong.
I have never had such strong feelings for a woman before-the last month and a half we have been going out has been amazing AND I DONT WANT TO LOSE HER!! WHAT SHOULD I DO??