Me and my wife of 3 years and two beautiful kids have been fighting very badly lately. I'll try to keep this short.
Her mother has alzheimers, a very bad form of it that makes her memory decrease in fast increments. In just 3 years, she can't even stand up or sit down properly... Anyway, so my wife moved back to Japan from USA, and asked me if I'd go with her to help her, and I said yes of course. She takes care of her mother all the time, she has to even assist her in the bathroom, she does all the chores, cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids ETC.
I'm a very nervous and somewhat troubled person since my parents used to fight physically often, but I am not abusive in the slightest, just that I have flashbacks and I guess prone to arguing because I grew up with that type of atmosphere. My wife on the other hand seems to not take to me being loud, because then she gets like that as well (she's a Leo like me.) I think she doesn't respect me the way a man should. I want a woman to say she loves me and to give me massages, rub my body somewhere, because I do that to my wife all the time but she never shows me that type of affection anymore. Am I wrong to expect this type of loving when her mother is slowly dying? Should I be extra nice to her because of this?
I moved from USA, left all my family and friends, and my wife doesn't show me affection like she used to, but she does all the housework and takes care of her mother and our kids. All I want her to do is kiss me from time to time or something like that. I do that to her all the time, multiple times, but I feel maybe she just doesn't feel like that mood with the current situation.
Yesterday, she sat next to my friend instead of next to me, and I got jealous that she did that, and I told her, and she said I am annoying and she wanted to divorce me and take my kids too, then she said sorry, but I was way too mad and I am thinking of divorcing her now because she always seems to hint out that she doesn't really need me to help her anymore and that I might feel better if I lived in my own place.
I really need advice, anything would help. This is the first time I've asked for help about something like this, so any wise input would really help me.
Thanks so much, bye for now.