Why is my boyfriend doing this to me?

[cgracek]

my boyfriend and i met and started dating 10 months ago when we were both... ready.. in a juvenile delinquency treatment program. i know it sounds crazy but we kept in contact every weekend and saw eachother every day at school. i spent 7 months there and he spent a year. we basically got eachother through it sane. after we were released we realized we were PERFECT for eachother and fell deeply in love. we rarely ever fought unless i did something stupid but he always forgave me. he made me feel SOOO special and treated me like a princess. we were soo close we sometimes forgot that we were boyfriend and girlfriend. we always discussed how were getting married, having kids, etc. recently he begged me to tell him how many guys i've slept with before him and i lied a few times until i finally told him the truth, names and all. he acted like it wasnt a big deal and told me he already knew it was around that amount. he told me he wished i was a virgin, and if i was i'd be absolutely perfect. i told him he needs to get over it because its in my past and i cant change it.. he acted like it wasnt a big deal. but he's been acting REALLY weird lately and broke up with me twice (we got back together. he said it was too hard to leave me,) in one week because he found out about another guy and he was "embarassed". he told me that he doesn't like how people talk about me and he feels like he could find another girl easily that didn't have a promiscuous past like me. it CRUSHED me. now all i can think of is how to help it to get over this! does my boyfriend TRULY love me? i feel like if he did he would be able to get over this. our relationship is TOO good to end because of something that i can't even change. anyone have any tips of what i should say?

does he REALLY love me?

[Gigabitch]

Um, isn't he also a juvenile delinquent? Is he really in a position to be looking for someone "prefect"?

The next time he says he wishes you were a virgin, tell him you wish he wasn't such an insecure, jealous little bitch because then HE would be perfect.

[hurt_confuzd]

does he REALLY love me?

No.







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[girl68]

I'm sorry but you're an utter idiot for going into so much detail and by detail I mean NAMES? REALLY? How foolish.

Otherwise I agree with Giga- you're promiscious and let me guess he's no sweet little virgin either now is he?

[QueenofCorona]

Tell him you've decided to take his advice and make yourself "perfect" by becoming a born again virgin. Starting today. See how well he likes that.

For real though, he's a doucher. He has zero room to look down on anyone. Graduate high school, get a college degree, find a job, then worry about the rest. Your future kids will think you are perfect for going that route and not having to hear their loser dad call their mom names while they're growing up and never be able to forget about it.

[cgracek]

i have, i promised him i would never be with another guy for the rest of our lives. that's why hes trying to get over it but he's having trouble.. so i just want something good to say to him ya know? :/

[girl68]

you can't this is completely not your issue.

[QueenofCorona]

i have, i promised him i would never be with another guy for the rest of our lives. that's why hes trying to get over it but he's having trouble.. so i just want something good to say to him ya know? :/

Right, but I'm saying cut him off too. Makes him kind of a hypocrite in my book if its kosher for you to sleep with him now, but not ok to have hooked up with others in the past.

[cgracek]

Right, but I'm saying cut him off too. Makes him kind of a hypocrite in my book if its kosher for you to sleep with him now, but not ok to have hooked up with others in the past.

i replied to this already but it didnt show up so ill write it again haha. he doesn't have sex with me. we've only had sex once our whole year long relationship. the one time that we did i became pregnant with his baby.

[Mish]

The next time he says he wishes you were a virgin, tell him you wish he wasn't such an insecure, jealous little bitch because then HE would be perfect.

he told me that he doesn't like how people talk about me and he feels like he could find another girl easily that didn't have a promiscuous past like me.

Don't forget to tell him that he's also a coward, who is scared of how other people will think about him more than he cares about your feelings.

[girl68]

Did you even use a condom? If no, I'd think twice about having sex with you to. If you're that irresponsible with him god only knows what you did with the other ones.

[Kaius]

oh geez.... i wish something good could come out of all this. You guys are really young right?
Often times people need to grow up before that are ready to do grown-up stuff.
Love, relationships, sex, marriage, commitment are all grown-up mature stuff.
If you guys are not emotionally ready for this, then maybe you guys should hold off on
the deeper stuff. I mean, why make life so complicated so early on?