so ive been dating my gf for about a year and things are going pretty well aside from the usual disagreement every now and then. i understand that no one can always return a call or text immediately when they are busy. so i dont expect it from my gf. but i feel like its been happening more often than normal. i also live 270mi away from her now and i see her maybe once every two months. heres an example for the last 2 days
saturday
we were texting back and forth for a couple mins and she said she was going to take a nap. (730pm)
i call at 10pm to see if she was up from her nap yet, no response. i started to get bad ideas; maybe shes out for cinco de mayo and didnt want to tell me? i get a good morning text the next day at 6am.
she says she took a norco and knocked out. so i drop the doubts and believe her.
sunday
we talked for over the ph and then she said she had to go, she said shed put her ph on the charger and call me later. ok.. no worries.(630pm)
10pm comes around and i text her gnite because i had work early next morning
she texts me back at 11pm saying gnite.
i asked if she forgot to call or something
she says - "ate at dads....drove brother home...talked to mom for an hour...went back to dads...dad got gas for her....dad washed her car...got home and charged the ph..."
me- "so ur dad washed ur car at night..? and i thought u said you were charging your ph after we hung up."
she says - "no we went through a car wash, and i drove my brother home after i got off the ph, so i had no chance to charge it, he had me drive my brother right away"
me - "thought u said u ate at your dads"
she says - "its cool i told you how it went i dont need you questioning my every move. gnite"
me - "u said you got off the ph and drove brother home.... but you also said you ate and then drove your brother home"
she says -"i did!! do i have to tell you every detail?"
me- "well your story changed..."
she says - "...hung up....food was made but jus grabbed some food and then left with brother right away.... you over reacting...i apologize that im very involved with my family and i dont meet your 'time schedules' "
i didnt respond after that and just went back to sleep
ok so thats about how to conversation went..
i admit, i was a little cranky being woken up an hour into my sleep.
i know i shouldnt doubt and question her; i should have faith and trust her. but its hard sometimes since my job trained me to look for lies and irregularities. and one of most common mistakes of liars is they cant keep the story straight. also, a liar is more defensive; someone honest would respond more offensively when accused of lying.
anyway, i dont think shes lying, because i do have faith in her, but what ticked me off more was her sarcasm at the end; apologizing , and implying i have a "time schedule". like shes on a short leash or something. i hate that. im not a control freak and id let her do anything as long as she communicates with me. i wouldnt want to take away who she is by restraining her.
so far i think i should just wait and see if this pattern continues or maybe this month the moon is outta wack. lol
id like to hear more opinions and what you would do in my shoes. if im on the right track...awesome. but if theres something i need to work on myself; please tell me. if theres something wrong with her, i'll consider it. theres nothing like a 3rd person view on a relationship. thanks!