Hello forum,
Recently I've made a few forum posts about my issue and to summarize it all, was with a girl for 7 months, passionate relationship, deep love, lost our virginity to each other, and we broke up, the break up wasn't final till 3 weeks later since we were on the "i don't know if i wanna get back" stage. Well we broke up and reconnected as friends very quickly but that turned into friends with benefits and triggered some emotions, we started to act like a couple and one day (3 months into FWB) we r intimate, the next day she accepts an invitation to coffee from a guy at work that likes her.
Yeah i know, i got attached and started getting my hopes up but I'm not fighting it, I'm moving on, I'm doing rather good, last i spoke to her was 5 days ago now telling her that i need some time apart before I'm ready to reconnect as friends, she was rather surprised by this since she moved on and told me to let her know when I'm ready and that she wont contact me till I let her know that I'm ready, I don't know when ill be ready because it stings a little but i accept it that we aren't a couple and there is some other guy, and frankly it doesn't bother me, only thing that scares me is loosing her as a friend right now.
When we originally broke up we both wanted to stay friends and during our last conversation this is still true. My question is, how to reestablish a nice healthy relationship with her as a friend, i am no longer interested in a relationship with her since i realize we simply weren't compatible and we broke up for a reason, no point in getting back together but we were extremely close and i miss having her as a friend like that, much more than having her as a girlfriend.
What to do forum, the fact she is seeing someone isn't affecting me all that much anymore, I'm ok with the fact we won't be intimate again, and I'm comfortable with being around her and not do stupid stuff like begging or pleading or even suggesting anything. I just want a friendship that will last.
What can i do, should i continue the no contact, should i text her every few days saying hello/how are you, but nothing private till I'm ready to meet her in person and reestablish our friendship?
Background: I'm 22 Male, shes 20 Female, both lost virginity to each other, both want to stay friends, Both are in the same group of friends (that's how we met)