He hooked up with another girl

[emooore]

Can't get over the fact that my ex hooked up with some random chick after a fight at a beach retreat. Me and him aren't friends on facebook anymore but I know who the other girl is (mutual friend) and I'm pretty sure she knows that I'm still upset over it. Both of us were really drunk (while we were fighting too) and he was so drunk that weekend that my friends and I had to leave. Idk if he did this to show spite towards me for hooking up with his best friend (before we started dating) or if he did it because he wanted to and didn't care. Thoughts?

[lalalita]

What are you asking, dear?

[emooore]

Just wondering if anyone had any thoughts as to why he did it

[Wakeup]

He's your ex + he drinks too much + he hooked up with another girl = One shitty boyfriend. And no, he doesn't love you.

[lalalita]

It's an immature move, drunk or not.

[meloveulongtime]

regardless, two wrong doesnt make a right. its immature and dont swoop to his level. now you have leverage and more reason to never take him back.

[Wakeup]

emoore keeps starting these same types of threads without ever coming back and acknowledging the replies she gets.
Just trolling or indifferent?

[meloveulongtime]

emoore keeps starting these same types of threads without ever coming back and acknowledging the replies she gets.
Just trolling or indifferent?

Maybe she's in denial and the response she's receiving is not what she wants to hear.
--As hard as it is, the truth hurts. Better to identify the real problem and deal with it so you can move forward with your life.

[basilandthyme]

If he is no longer your boyfriend, he can hook up with anyone he pleases. After you breakup, what you think or care is no longer relevant to him.

[emooore]

Not trolling! I just need some opinions so I can get perspective. I'm not sure if I still have feelings for him, but I'm around a lot of his friends most of the time and it can be hard to see him/hear people talk to me about him. As much as it pains me to be friends, I feel like that's the only way for me to be content while at school.

[michelle23]

You dont need to be his friend. You can be polite if he talks to you directly but other than that you should just ignore him and no matter what happens now-dont take him back and stop getting into silly fights with him. Just walk away. Hes your ex and you need to distance yourself from him so you can get over him.

It would be a waste of time getting back with him so even if he wants to, stay strong and say no. You wont get over what he did-break up or not so it would just be a destructive relationship.

Forget him and move on.

[emooore]

Every time I see him he's either very mean/drunk or overly flirtatious. He might have a personality disorder, but who's to know. I probably shouldn't talk to him about that, right?

[Wakeup]

You shouldn't be talking to him period... particularily if you think he has a personality disorder. Are you so desperate to talk to people that you'll even do it with people who are mean drunks with possible personality disorders. The question is forming in my mind ~ What is wrong with You that you continue on with this douchey, douche bag?

[emooore]

No I just really liked him at one point. I just want to see if he has any remorse for the things he did. I don't have any feelings for him I just don't like having hard feelings with anyone.

[Wakeup]

No I just really liked him at one point. I just want to see if he has any remorse for the things he did. I don't have any feelings for him I just don't like having hard feelings with anyone.

Well, honey its best you learn that you don't need people in your life who are drunks, mean, personality disordered. Learn that it doesn't matter having hard feelings with those types of people that are selfish, issued and not caring about themselves, nevermind you. There ARE people who are going to come in and out of your life that you will discover are much better off never talking to again... and you have to have the confidence to not care if they don't like you because you know that you're better off with them not being in your life so pffffft... to them. Done! *wipes hands clean of those types of people*