Originally Posted by
whaywardj
Answering your last question either way wouldn't seem to offer any resolution to the matter. But, offhand, I'd say it was you and that this'll be a recurring issue, however sexually experienced your partner may be. Depending on her physiology and stature. I say this because there have been at least two occasions in my experience where women have stopped having sex with me because I hurt them, and they've told me so. (There may have been others who stopped for the same reason, but didn't tell me.) And these weren't kids. Both were over 30 and had had children. Each remarked on a different kind of discomfort. One was uncomfortable during sex, experiencing topical pain, as if her vagina were being overly stretched. The other, uncomfortable after sex, experiencing internal pain, as if her uterus had been "displaced" (as she put it.)
Significantly, in my mind, both were of petite or near-petite stature. On the other hand, a VERY petite Japanese woman I dated for awhile, and another American woman who had to buy her clothes in the "Junior Miss" sections of stores and have them tailored DOWN to fit her -- both of whom were also sexually experienced -- did NOT complain of any discomfort.
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