I asked a question last week about my husband, who had sent hundreds of sex emails to a woman he used to work with, and it had been happening since December 2008. I asked if his inability to stay away from her, always being the one who initiated contact, meant that he had feelings for her.
I found more emails - from yesterday.
At one point, he says "You're so cute...." (when she makes a joke) and then tells her how beautiful she is and how her make-up and everything is always so perfect.
They then move on to talk about sex and he offers to go meet her wherever she has an appointment, saying they can do it in the parking lot if she doesn't have the time, he just needs to see her...
I am heartbroken. Do you still think that he has feelings for her, based on what he said, or that it's just sex, since that's what they ended up discussing?? (They have scheduled to do it for the first time next week).
He also tells her "Do you know how many times I have j****d off thinking of you?? HUNDREDS..." It's like he never stops thinking about her. BUT, he ended up apologizing profusely to her for not seeing her last time, and that is so unlike him... I sense a new emotional tone in his messages and am wondering if these new developments are proof of his emotional ties to her.
What's your take on it? Yes, I am planning to leave him.