Originally Posted by
Ybbuc2112
Hey everyone,
I'll start from the beginning.
Last September I had a one night thing with a colleague after a friends wedding. She was in relationship that was coming to an end or I think it was. Afterwards I never contacted her because I didn't no if she wanted that and just thought that she might of wanted a one night thing.
But a week later she got in touch via FB just to ask really random questions, I let these conversations die out eventually cos I never knew her status in current relationship and I suppose I didn't have the balls to ask. Then randomly a few weeks later she got my number from a friend an the texting began. I asked all the questions
Then on another works party near Xmas I picked her up an we travelled there together, spent most of the night with each other. Then she said are you going to ask me out on a date? To which I replied, yeah you wanna go out sometime. We kissed briefly that night then went for a drink the following Monday. ( our day off ). An it all sort of blossomed from there an we both agreed we didn't want everyone at work knowing what was happening. But that's were I am stuck because she is a very quiet about things and I'm not sure she's told any of her family or friends about us, because she going speed dating on Friday apparently. Were as she's met all of mine. An she can seem really distant sometimes like she's hiding something. I see her most weekends an sometimes in the week an we both would like to see more of each other. But I dunno were we are... Boyfriend girlfriend or more casual?
And I'm not sure whether she's using me as some sort of springboard or not?
I guess what I wanna ask is am I being used or am I reading into things a bit much and this is how a grown up relationship can happen?
( She didn't want to rush things so not jinx or ruin what we had even though she thinks she's fallen for me )
Thanks