I have a situation very similar to JazzyM, any help would be appreciated.
I'm a 30 yr old single male, quite quiet and although I don’t show it I am quite emotional. I started at a new company last July and have been very focused on the job there. My office is open plan and there are a few departments sharing the floor and amenities,
I have a great working relationship with everyone on the floor.
Two months ago a 20yr old girl started in another department we are in contact all day every day, (she is my contact for that department) I have to do some jobs/tasks for them. She is very friendly and talks to everyone, she openly talks to her colleagues about her boyfriend and how she is unsure wether to stay with him.
We didn’t really initially become friends until a month ago.
Anyway over the last few weeks we have been getting more and friendlier and I have become more interested in her and I think she is with me. I would never openly tell her how I feel due to the fact she is still seeing somebody and it’s the work environment and she has never openly told me if she feels the same. The past weeks she and I have been flirting, initially I didn’t notice but now when she brings me something to help her with or look at she'll touch my hand, brushes into me, stands close and there is lots of eye contact.
If I help her out of a difficult spot work wise she says 'I love you' looking me deep in the eyes, when we aren’t in the same meetings she says 'aw'.
When no-one is around she seems very interested in me but a soon as her colleagues are around she seems uninterested. Her department are always planning nights out ect, to which we are never invited.
We also are into the same music and she will sometimes TEXT me at night on her mobile phone or vice versa, all friendly messages to which we have always replied.
Yesterday we both had a bad day, I know she was stressed but I didn’t get to speak to her much. I text her after work saying if she needed to talk or needed anything she could count on me. To which
she hasn’t replied.
I am now thinking about her all the time, at work I'm making silly mistakes, constantly switching between ecstatic when she talks to me and moody when she is uninterested.
I know I should be too old for this sort of thing, and I have had relationships before but this is different.
Can you please advise me what to do, and If you suggest forget her romantically can you give me some tips to take my mind of her.
Many thanks.