Can you fall in love with an escort girl.

[jimtheman36]

I have this friend Tom who last year split from his girlfriend and he told me this the other day. He told me that he went and saw an escort girl last week and they got on really really well and near the end of there time together she asked if he would like to meet up with her at the weekend for a drink in her local pub and that he would not have to pay for her time. She then said how much she liked him and then she started chatting him up like someone who really fancies you. So he said he met up with her again and met some of her family but not her parents. He said that he thinks that she would like to go out with him as in boyfriend and girlfriend and that he would really like to go out with her and that he would like to give it a try and see what might come out of this.
What should my friend do? Should he keep seeing her or is she just using him as this is what some escort do. Can this be real love and can an escort really fall for there clients?
Would be nice to know what to tell my friend next time I see him.

[steviej]

Is your 'friend' very financially secure? She could well be a gold digger looking for the perfect opportunity. Is he alot older than her?

As much as we'd all like to hear that it ends like 'pretty woman' scenario, it's very, very unlikely!
Chances are she also has a head full of issues and emotional baggage. Not to mention the fact that you'd have to get over the thought that the woman you love has f#cked men for money.

[VincenzoG91]

Unless Tom is turned on by the idea of other men doing his woman, she would need to quit the escort job immediately. He might think that he can handle the jealousy, but wait until a time comes when he knows for a fact that she is having sex with another guy, right at that moment. All the worse if he ends up helping as her driver and is parked out front while it's happening.

Quitting the escort work will mean a significant drop in her income, plus she may now have a gap in her resume that will make it harder for her to get a normal job. So she might ask Tom to help her financially, which would mean that their relationship would continue to be based on money. Again, he might be okay with that at first, but it might become harder to accept after the first argument or two.

And as steviej mentioned, there is a possibility that she has some serious issues, either from the escort work or from things that happened before that.

[devonbrown]

Escorts, strippers, etc. all are real people and therefore they can and do fall in love. However, they make their living by being what their client wants them to be, learning how to read body language cues, being someone's somebody special, if even for a little bit. So, if your friend is thinking that the escort is starting to really like him, and he is really liking her, outside of their professional encounter, he should just really be careful. He needs to examine any possible relationship a lot more than normal, and he needs to really think about how he is going to handle everything in the future. I always say to worry about the now, but in this case, it is not a bad thing if he worries about the future as well.

Good luck.

[Kaius]

Escorts are paid to make you feel loved and wanted. It's all an illusion. It's part of their job.
Sure they can fall in love, but they learn to separate their emotions.... Money is more important to them right now.

[98db]

Not a good idea to start a relationship unless she has already decided to get out of the business. On the other hand, nothing wrong with dating her for fun as long as they are both on the same page.

[beautifulgirl]

I am an escort and I also have bpd, borderline personality disorder; stemming from childhood trauma. I also have a loving boyfriend that has loved me unconditionally, which in turn has diminished my bpd symptoms. There is a man in the bible that God instructed to marry a prostitute and he did. He had trouble with her, but in the end she accepted his love. If everything works out, I will gladly leave escorting, the anxiety before each call, the repulsive memories of seeing older clients and opt for a lower income. My bf is no george clooney and he's middle class, but I know he will help me financially as well, as we are hispanic and male providership is the norm. I will work, and anything I cannot afford I know he will help. Anywho, you'd be surprised some of us escorts are a diamond in the rough, and with some patience and understanding, we can be a great person to know