Hello all!
Came here because I'm in the middle of a tough situation.. so I'll try to keep this a short as I can and then hope you can tell me if there's anything I can do.
In summer I was travelling abroad, on a short trip with a 2 choirs: a mixed choir I sang with and a girls choir who were along with us. We performed together in some concerts and also stayed in the same hotel. During this short trip, a girl from the other choir caught my attention. Of course that is nothing special since that occasionally happens and usually it just fades away. We had a chance to exchange some words, talk a bit, but nothing serious. I was excited a bit, but knew better and told myself usually these things fade away.
So the trip was not long, as I said, and after a few days we were coming back home - both of the choirs and all the people, different buses but the same plane. At the airport I was there, trying to get my ticket and the screen where you have to pick your seat comes up. I tell myself: 'Okay, may it be so that I pick the seat next to her..' My sister was along with me there, standing and chatting and having no idea of this little wish that I was making. Somewhere in those moments, it so happened that I really didn't know which seat to pick and then accidentally hit the touch-screen and my decision was made for me.
Oh and yes, surprise-surprise: as our flight was coming up and I was already sitting on the plane, the girl comes up, sits down beside me and tells me 'You must be my flight-neighbour', gives me a handshake and tells me her name (let's call her S). Okay, whoa.
During the short flight, we got to talk and she seemed to understand me like nobody else. I was stunned of course and a little nervous. What happened next was that at the end of our almost one-hour conversation, I find out that she's studying composition, which has always been a hobby of mine. Something else to connect us besides the understanding, the sympathy, the feeling of knowing that someone just 'gets' you. It was so weird. At the end of it, she agreed to go on the internet and search for my music, cause we both wanted to hear what the other had been writing, but she didn't have anything online for listening. Soon, we arrived home and departed ways.
Couple of days later I added her on FB. And for a very long while, nothing happened really. I expected her to give some feedback on my pieces, but that never happened and well it's weird to ask something like that yourself. So this situation kind of faded away, as I had initially thought. Until recently when I just, kind of accidentally chatted up and told her that I'm still waiting to hear her music like we agreed on the plane. We talked and she wanted to meet me and discuss music, writing etc - share ideas and thoughts. So we met again, after like almost 2-3 months and we talked for about 3 hours, of music, composition, goals in life and it was again: very sincere, direct, open and understanding, free of any prejudice or evaluation, she just 'gets' me.. something I think that is rare. Afterwards, she thanked me for the meeting and I think she was happy
So yeah - I really-really like her. Problem is: she has someone already. I'm not going to try and cause any problems with this since it's just not something I do (I've always been 'too much of a nice guy' when it comes to relationships). But here yeah.. it goes against my morals to attempt anything there, but..
..is there still anything I can do to pursue something more? Or do I just keep being a good friend, the way it's been with all of my possible relationships in the past? (in the end, I've always been relegated to the friend-zone) How do I make something positive out of this?
Thanks for your time reading and feedback,
Amont