Originally Posted by
Confusion
Hi everyone, I am new to the board. I was hoping you folks can give me your opinion on my situation.
This girl and I have been “together” for the past 5 years. When I say “together”, I don’t exactly mean we were dating. We got together at the beginning of our relationship because we both really liked each other. But because I felt I wasn’t ready to start dating due to various reasons, we remained friends until the 3rd year mark. Although I was still not ready, we tried dating anyways at this point because I felt it wouldn’t be a good idea to keep on dragging things on. However, the dating didn’t last long due to personal reasons. But because we were so close to each other and got along so well, we remained best friends. Last year she moved out of town for school and during this time frame she has come to accept the fact that nothing more will come out of our friendship. The catch however is that I still have feelings for her but just haven’t brought it to her attention (I was probably being too friendly). I thought that since she’s away from home and because I had some health problems, it was probably not the right time to let her know of my feelings. Last week, she informed me that she plans on starting a new relationship with someone else. So I finally told her my feelings for her and that I would love to have one last chance. She felt that she has already given me 5 years of her time and I haven’t done much to act on the chances that were upon me. Thus, she was unable to agree to my request. Since she is someone I really cared for, there wasn’t much I can do other than to wish her happiness with her new relationship. We left on good terms and she wished me happiness as well.
Now here is my dilemma. Even though she rejected my request for another chance, I feel that her decision was influenced by the fact that she’s currently starting up a new relationship. Hence, I don’t feel there is any closure on my part unless it was a rejection coming from her while she’s single. Should I wait for her to see if she’ll become single again and make another request or should I just let these 5 years go to waste and move on? I really love her and it’s eating away at me that I didn’t express my true feelings to her sooner. I don’t know how I can move on in the state that I am in.