Originally Posted by
Danielle38
I am Danielle, I have been married to my husband Henry for 17 years and we have 2 great kids, I am also gay or bi. I had a few times had sex with girls in high school and college, but when I met Henry who is so beautiful we got married and the feelings for women went away, but two years ago my sexual urges for other women resurfaced, and I have been having sex with several other women the past two years, one of them is my daughters best friend who is 18. Her and I have been seeing each other regularly for sex, we go to her house or my house or we go to a hotel. But sometimes when she isn't available I seek other women. My husban and I still have sex but it is less lately, but I am in trouble, a former female assistant that I was having sex with is suing me for money claiming wrongful termination. I do love my husband and my family, Should I tell my husband and kids?
Assuming that you're not a troll... My advice would be to tell your husband. It doesn't matter if you were with men or women behind your husband's back... cheating is cheating, regardless of gender.
I am bi, and though I've never had the desires shift (my attraction remains relatively 50/50), I can sympathize with the confusion you feel. But shifting sexual interest is no different than simply falling out of love/attraction with your husband.
It's not fair to your husband or your family to continue with this... tell your husband, and it will be up to him how he will choose to respond. As for your daughter's friend... I can only hope this isn't going to affect your daughter in a horribly negative way --- wouldn't be much different than if her father was sleeping with her best friend.
Being bi or gay does not excuse cheating... contrary to popular belief.
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen