Hello everyone,
I am new to this website and I was looking for somewhere to vent and ask for advice on a problem I have been having in my relationship.
I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have been living together for over 3 and a half of those years. I am not a clean freak but I have always done almost all if not all of the housework.
This started off being because he worked full time and I worked part time but it hasn't been that way for nearly 3 years. For all of July my boyfriend did not have a job while I worked full time and ended up doing about half of the chores then. During August he was in school for about 2 weeks at the start of the month and this to him was enough to stop doing everything but cleaning the litter box. Now he has been out of school for 2 weeks again with no job while I am still working full time and back to school 2 nights a week and still only doing the litter box.
I have brought up many times before that I feel our housework load is uneven. He always gets defensive and angry. Today was just the same. I mentioned very calmly that I was disappointed that no housework was done all week while I was at work and school and he went off very angrily about how he was studying. (this means about 2 hours a day during the week) I hate conflict so I left it at that after he stopped talking to me and left the room to find this forum.
The problem with all of this is that I feel like he doesn't respect me at all knowing that I am working long days at work and going to school and still letting me do almost all of the housework. I feel like he is only thinking of himself and quite frankly treats me like I'm his mother. I'm sick and tired of it and don't know what to do because every time I try to bring up something I am unhappy with he gets angry and defensive and it is like talking to a brick wall.
Please help!