Saviour needed....
I'm in a relationship with a girl for quite a while. Everything is going fine, we love each other very much and I'm pretty sure with that. For about a week our relationship has become a long distance relationship, since I have to go back to Europe while she's living in Asia. A sad fact for us, but we're still hoping that this relationship will last.
I miss her a lot, sometimes the feeling is unbearable, but live must go on. I also have a lot of doubt in my mind.... I feel that I'm not needed by her, there is not much give and receive in this relationship, I feel more like I give and she receives (not matters but efforts). It was not the case in the begining of our relationship. Our efforts we're 50/50, but after few weeks her effort has lessened, now it's like 70/30, 80 from me and 20 from her. Does she feel that our relationship is secured so she doesn't do much anymore? (Once I asked her about her commitment in our relationship, she was upset, she felt dissapointed because she thought I doubted her love. We have resolved this matter) What is going on?
Another matter that buggles in my mind is that how long this relationship will last... She's a stubborn girl, an only child just like me (And you probably know how stubborn an only child can be), often I see a reflection of me in her. She rarely listens and doesn't say much about her while I'm a man with few words and not a good listener too. I'm afraid that this relationship doesn't last. I know to make it lasts we've got to have something in common, like interests. We do have some common interests (We are both in to graphics, she likes to draw comics and I'm in to computer graphics) but it is difficult to share it from 16000 Km's away. I'm trying to improve our communication, but I don't know wether it will work. Usually when we're on the phone we don't say much either, usually we talk only about stupid jokes, how much we love & miss each other and some peptalk, but nothing about ourselves. I'm trying to change that but it will need some time and I'm clueless here with what to do next.. what should I do? How can we enhance our relationship? Please give me an advice on this. Thanks.
"Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes...just be an illusion." - Javan