Ok... So me n my bf have been together for 2.5years....
In the start sex was normal, but after maybe a month or so we started having these issues... He couldn't keep an erection probably 70% of the time... This lasted a year I think n then we just started to have sex less (twice a week?) and it very slowly got better...
But in the meantime I took it as me being the problem... He said he never had this prob before.. N been with plenty of other women...
I tried to act like I didn't care n it was all ok, ignore it.. I tried to talk about it, we asked a dr, (told that time n patience was required in a new relationship )... My bf blamed some prescription drugs he took once upon a time... But I can't help but think it was me.. After 18months when it started to get bad again, I asked if something was up... He said normally the porn we had on, toys we were playing with n what I was wearing should have him gagging for it but he felt nothing... I said it was about time we accept he is not attracted to me it had to be that... He said no but it wasn't very convincing... Then he said he's old enough to realize there is more important things then sex in a relationship... Sometimes I'd try start something and he would say no so I don't anymore... I took all this very very personal and it'd ruined my self esteem.
I tried sending him naughty msgs n pics during the day which he just reply with "" or something... He was so not interested...
Yet I know with x gf he had no problems with naughty texting n graphic photos! It must be me??
So then a few months later coming up to 2 years together I'm at the point where I just don't know what to do, I felt so unattractive n unwanted.. I try telling him but he tells me I'm being stupid.
I try massages n new things but nothing... He even jokes about asking about when I last played with myself or watched porn bc he knows I'm in need ! But he doesn't act or try ??!
So about 2 year mark, he says we should have a baby (woah!) so all of a sudden it's sex sex sex... It's great... N no erection problems n back to sex at least 3times a week... Yay!!
Then I fall preg...
I'm 5months n it's back to non existent sex... Ok once a week or fortnight... I've asked.. He says he's tired or past his use by.. But he will wake up turn tv on.. Stay up till late watching tv... It's all he wants to do!! Driving me insane !!! So I feel soooo unwanted n unattractive again it's really making me :-(
He's still got interest in the subject as he acts like a 14yo boy the second boobs are on tv or anywhere with a semi naked chick he's like another person... He will look at nude models online n comment n get all excited but that's it
So again... It must be me?
He does love me.. But if he is so uninterested in me sexually... Is it just a matter of time before this turns into a bigger problem or he strays elsewhere for it???
:-(