From your experience...

[lhn]

Hi all,
Just wanted to get a couple of opinions on something and maybe some peoples experiences...

I was dumped by my girlfriend around 13 weeks ago now and its been tough; horrendous; and depressive. I'm almost out into the clear now apart from the constant reminders that she is with someone else and has been since week 2 of the breakup. Not sure if this bit ever goes away??

My question is... I have the opportunity of sex with someone I've met but I'm not sure if its the right decision. I suppose many people will say "don't, you're doing it for the wrong reasons", "if you're in doubt then don't" etc etc but really?!?! It would be completely unrelated to a more indepth relationship and perhaps would speed up the healing process now that I'm soooo close to getting over my ex.

Is it a case of it could work or it could backfire... or are there enough people out there who have ridden this ride and have a firm answer of 'do it' or 'don't do it'.

I'm edging towards it freeing me of my final set of shackles from the girl who broke my heart.

I should mention I've found it incredibly difficult to break from her cos I still find her hugely attractive physically. Like... ridiculously. And the self-loathing she is with someone else is my final hurdle to overcome.

Many thanks in advance,

[rohit20]

Go ahead. Give a chance to the new person, and show the girl who dumped you, that you're no less than her! This will even help you forget her a move on. Hope this works.
Regards,
rohit20

[girl68]

I feel sorry for the girl you're going to screw.

[lhn]

girl68... thats not the case whatsoever. its her who has initiated interest. not me.
Hit and run is not what i have ever been about.

[girl68]

So what exactly do you want? You want to bang her so that you can what get over the gf that you're clearly not over?

I still feel sorry for her. Unless however you've been an open book letting her know that you're hung up on an ex, and she has excepted that and still made advances.

[lhn]

girl68... i was asking if something like that has helped people get over the final hurdles of a breakup.

She knows everything about my breakup. She also knows that I wont be having any kind of a meaningful relationship with her - it would be just sex. I'm a very honest guy and would never lead someone on or hurt someone. Never!! It was her who suggested it, not me.
Just wanted to hear if anyone had found it a big mistake or not.

[girl68]

I see.

Well what could happen is that you could feel even more lonely and therefore miss her more to engage in romantic relations with a women you don't care for.

I would advise against it.

[qwertz]

haha i used to live in swindon..you sound like someone i know lol.

If she is the one initiating and know that you wont be in a proper relationship then yes, rebounds are good.

[rohit20]

Dude, i'm telling you, go for it!

[ricerocket1]

hey bro...i say dont do it...im in the same situation as you...this girl right now im talking to she makes me smile and i need her more that i need sex? i know it sounds like im using her but i am because it feels that void inside for a while

[Cbrider]

haha i used to live in swindon..you sound like someone i know lol.

If she is the one initiating and know that you wont be in a proper relationship then yes, rebounds are good.

Like Qwerty said, just make sure you have everything on the table so that their are no surprises.