Cant have sex without emotion...

[BLV1]

i feel like i don't want to have sex unless it is with someone i care about and who cares about me. Shouldn't i just want to get off witha one night stand? i feel like sex is waste of my time. dont get me wrong it feels good. but only for a time. is this weird that i feel tis way?

[Kaius]

Sex and love should go together, but some people can apparently block out emotions...like prostitutes and porn stars. I never understood how they could do it. To each his/her own.

[sookie6]

Be true to yourself and that's all. It's nice to hear that some men (are youmale???) need to be emotionally involved to have sex...

[Incognito]

No, its not weird that you feel that way. In fact I have more respect for you based solely on your opening post than I do for many many men that I know who 'hit and run'. The most appropriate place for sex is within a committed relationship. You could always use toys until you are involved with someone.

[dcad]

Not weird at all. If that's how you feel there's no need to rush it at all. It is so much more special when emotion is involved

[E.C.]

You have to be able to separate the two, sex and touchy-feely-emotions. It is great, wonderful, even beautiful if you can have both at the same time.

If you start dating someone, and one thing leads to another. You end up in bed with your S.O. wake up the next morning, confess your love to him / her. Chances are the person is going to freak out.

Nothing wrong with feelings and love, but this could work against you if you end up having feelings too early for someone / everyone you sleep with. Which could bring you to the point where you already are, sick, tired, bored of sex with no emotions. Also maybe a little heart broken if the person only wanted to have a night of fun with you.

[Ric]

To each their own.
Personally I see a difference between sex (which I can do with anyone), and making love (which I can only do with someone I'm deeply in love with)

No need to feel bad about it or question your feelings. It's who you are and there's no need to change.

[Dark Inertia]

My vagina has a direct line to my heart, so I can't do the FWB or one night stands either. Tried it... got burned. Not for me.

[sweetkissesforu]

My vagina has a direct line to my heart, so I can't do the FWB or one night stands either. Tried it... got burned. Not for me.

I have had one night stands always felt dirty and discusted with my self

[elijah121]

yea, one night stands aren't for me, i', just realizing this now after having three in the past two weeks with three different women. I feel disgusting, and yes i'm male, and i rather have an emotional bond with someone i care about.

[bloodtippedrose]

I dont think you can have "great" sex without being in love. Though sometimes an emotional connection is not available. Six months is where I draw the line, after that I'm humping something.

[xxazurexx]

To each their own, but I'm unsure how anyone can have sex with someone they have no emotional connection with.
And if they can, then they are capable of shagging anybody or anything.

[Ric]

Hmm, I feel like adding, while I can certainly see a difference between sex and making love, and thus to me I can have sex without emotions, the important part is always that you're honest about it.
If you bed a girl, or if a girl beds a guy, there's always the possibility of it being more to them. You should have the integrity to not take advantage of that and be honest about what it means to you. Make it clear if it's just sex.
If you make it clear then there is no problem. Some people might still think it more, but that is their own fault as long as you made it clear to them it isn't.
However, if you lure someone into bed with a few kind words, saying I love you, pretending you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, then you are in the wrong and then I'll think you a bad person.

I'll also add that while I can have sex with anyone I find attractive, and don't mind open relationships, I am ultimately loyal. And I'm not the only person like this (though sometimes it feels like that xD). There are plenty of people who can have casual sex but wouldn't ever considering cheating.

[DCbob]

emotions are essential for me to have sex. without them i'd rather just masturbate.
the emotions are what make it so exciting!

[DoesntMatter]

I can't have sex without a woman