Been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years (both 23), we have not had sex as I am fearful it will be painful. The thing is I do want sex! I just don't know how to go about being relaxed and what to take my mind off the pain. I think its the 5 inch girth putting me off and pushing the hymen! It is taking its toll and he said he will be off next week if we don't try. He says its not that he doesn't care he just feels rejected and is starting to get angry. He has been a saint waiting that long - I know he hasn't cheated.
Our relationship is starting to go rocky, his parents are trying to turn him against me and I'm scared this sex problem will end it all. I don't think it helped today when I accidently texted him men are a swear word so I had to make up an excuse. I want a future and so does he, I tried councelling but that wasn't helpful as they finished the sessions after so long. How long does the initial pain last? How long would the first time last? How do you relax and get in the mood? Any help is much appreciated.
Thanks