Hi guys!
I'm 18 and am having some problems with a girl, don't we all? I've known this girl for maybe 4 years, a pretty long time, but during this entire friendship we've been, kind of love hate, on her side of things, probably more hate, I don't want to sweet talk this or make this forum what I want to hear I just need to get it off my chest as front as possible. I think about this girl far too much and it mentally hurts me, I can't just move on to advice such as "there are more fish in the ocean" or "she isn't worth your time" because I just can't, I've tried focusing or trying with other girls, tried just disconnecting from her all together and just nothing works. Anyway I'll give some background information, for the first few years of our friendship in school it was nothing really, we didn't talk too often we were just in the same crowd, but as I came to my final year in school I started developing strong feelings for her, but never really came out and told her, towards the end of the year I told her how I felt, she however had a boyfriend at the time, she said she felt the same way a few months back. This hurt me and I just moved along, after school we lost contact but then I started talking to her again, and she invited me to come see her out of town, I did so, it was kind of weird, we had a few drinks and then ended up doing a lot of kissing and feeling and just intimate fun, it sounds corny but from then on I started having feelings for her again (she's one of those people you just always have a soft spot for) I told her and nothing really came of it to my disappointment, ever since then I've been completely whipped and everyday I think about her. We then ended up at an event together a few months later, same deal, intimacy but nothing came of it, like she was just doing it for the sake of doing it, but she isn't that type of girl... fast forward a month and a bit and we're here and I still can't move on, I'm certain she knows how I feel, I've lied to her and told her I'm over her and whatnot. I've never wanted someone so much, but what's weird is that... she's such a bitch! mean to say I know, but when we speak via text/online whatever she just seems mean, has this tone to her, like she doesn't want to talk, but then in person... she's different, fun, nice, a bit cheeky, but all in all, she just makes me feel like shit, I've never liked/hated someone so much I tell myself I can handle it, I swear I love this girl... anywayif any of you have some form of advice... anything! why is this girl getting intimate whenever we see each other, but also being... so horrible, why can't I be good enough, I end up turning this all on myself and tell myself I'm just not good enough for her, I'm not the clingy type, I don't talk to her 24/7 and I stay fit and scrub up nicely... so I'm told anyway, please guys anything, perhaps a way to finally catch this fish, or just a solid way to move on, so far nothing is working, and I'm hurting over it, she means too much to me but it feels like I mean nothing to her, like I don't even exist. It's something so small and others have such bigger problems than me but I'm just here thinking about her everyday and why she is the way she is. I like her because she's her, her personality is wonderful and she's beautiful, to me anyway, this has got the best of me... HELP! ):
Thanks for reading that chunk of text guys, all the best for 2014 I hope you guys/gals have better luck with your relationships than I am..