I don't see a reason to end an otherwise great relationship because of lack of sex. I can't go on without sex.
Then you should do the right thing and tell your gf first. If you want an open relationship, talk to your gf about it. Maybe she will be ok with it. OTOH, sex is an important component in an intimate relationship, it helps bond people together. Very few people can do an open relationship successfully. It takes a lot of maturity and excellent relationship skills.
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Endlessagony
I thnk you should seriously consider going to couples therapy. As said she probably has psychological issues after the abortion but that doesn't mean she doesn't want to have sex anymore at all.
Things like that can be very traumatic and you nagging about the sex really isn't helping the situation. What you have is communication breakdown, that is the real problem I think.
I normally support counseling in most cases, like where there is hope in fixing things. In this case, I do not. When a woman becomes pregnant, she forms a very very close bond with the fetus. To kill this fetus forms a huge scar in her heart and mind. Most women never get over this scar and have mental problems for the rest of their lives. It just has to do with this close bond with the fetus and how emotional women are in general. Some women get over it, some pretend to get over it, many never do. It's like rape or sexual abuse, most women never get over it, though I have met a couple women who appeared to have put it (sexual abuse) in their past.
Go to counseling to give it a try, but you will won't be getting sex from her any time soon.
Last edited by bulrush; 17-10-11 at 10:49 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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