Crush on my pharmacy manager?!!!

[ruzkiss]

I have been going to my health center's pharmacy for a few months now. I recently had to speak to the manager, and when I met him I felt so attracted to him that I could hardly breath. I believe he noticed my reaction and I think he felt attracted to me too I felt the chemistry. Since that first interaction I went in 2 more times and as soon as he saw me he could not stop staring at me the last time he looked at me with such excitement that he blushed, even other people noticed it. He looks at me in a way no one has ever done it before, it just melts my heart. I just don't know what to do. I'm 27 years old and I've never had a boyfriend I'm just really shy. He seems to be in his 40s so he's a lot more experienced than I am and that also intimidates me. I don't know how to approach this situation I can't stop thinking about him, but i'm too shy to do anything other than wonder around the pharmacy just to see him. There's also the possibility that he just looks at me with excitement because I elevated his ego, and not because he's really attracted to me. He doesn't wear a ring but he could be married, I just don't want to get my hopes up too high... I don't want to get hurt... I don't know, i'm very confused what should I do????

[TheCafeTerrace]

Ask him if he wants to get a coffee or something. If you don't find the courage to do something about this crush then nothing is going to happen, simple fact. Being afraid of getting hurt is a good way of going through life without ever doing anything worthwhile. Even if he says no I guarantee you won't regret taking the shot.

[cheekxs]

HahahHah.so sweet.uhm.....if he is SINGLE! ofcorseee. I think 1st thing to know is if he
He is single.so just go in to ask something and when you see him go ask him whatever. And so the conversation starts ans tthen u say to him nice ring.so u r not single huh? Or go with a friend that is not shy.so she
She can make some comments towards him for
u and about u and him. And u can take the lead after that.
And 40
Can be hot so. Cause you have also a mature age.just se how things go s

[Boisdevie]

You felt the 'chemistry'? I very much doubt it. If you're 27 and never had a boyfriend then you probably have no idea what 'chemistry' is. But if you want to date why not consider trying to find someone closer to your own age?

[smackie9]

Ah what the hell ask him out...it doesn't have to turn into anything. Just do it to for some enjoyment. He can't ask you out because it's not very professional, but by all means just slip him your phone number and ask him out for coffee.

[asdfg789]

how about trying this line:

"hey, I wanna buy some viagra but I need a guy to prove to me that it works !"

[ruzkiss]

hey guys,

thank you so much for replying to my question. when it comes to love and dating i'm clueless. I've always refused to get involved with anybody for the fear of getting hurt since I've seen my friends and family including my own parents go through terrible unhealthy relationships. I just never wanted that to happen to me, and I thought I had things under control, but since I met this guy I haven't had a moment of peace. I've just never felt this for anybody else before so I'm not only confused, but I'm really scared...

so thank you all for your advice

[IndiReloaded]

Oh, that's quite an age gap. But yes, no askee no getee. Try this next time:

I hope I'm not being inappropriate, but I was wondering if I might buy you a coffee or tea (someplace close) sometime?

He'll tell you if he is available or not. Don't worry about offending him if the answer is no. Men rarely get asked out and are extremely flattered by it. Either way, you will have made his day.

[Boisdevie]

She's not going to do this is she? Of course not, she's terrified of being rejected. She needs therapy, not suggestions about how to ask him out for coffee.

[TheCafeTerrace]

Yep, having a crippling fear of rejection is a great way to be alone ruzkis. Maybe therapy is a good idea, alternatively you can just watch Robin Williams pretending to be a therapist: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6WAylnO5gtA
"I think that's a super philosophy Will, that way you can go through your entire life without ever having to really know anybody..."

[ruzkiss]

hey guys!

its me again, asking for your help. After all your helpful advice I decided to forget about all my fears and for the first time in my life give someone a chance. I decided to go to the pharmacy and slip him a note asking him out. The las time I went to pick up medication I saw him drive away as I was going into the health center (he didn't see me). Since that time I have gone to the pharmacy about three or four times to pick up refills but he's never on the floor, he's always in his office in the back. Every time I leave without seeing him my heart aches so much that I cry for hours. Is this normal, has anybody gone through this? I don't even know him why does it hurt so much????? I don't know what to do know. I don't want to go in and ask to talk to him because he's the head of the place I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable at work specially around his employees. I know what car he drives but he parks on a private underground area so the only way I can know if he's working on a certain day is if I go in early in the morning and wait to see him drive in. I've also thought about waiting for him around the pharmacy before he opens so I can talk to him, but to me it all seems like I'm forcing things and I don't want to become a stalker what do you guys think I should do???

[smackie9]

It's obvious he is doing these things to avoid confrontation with you and by waiting around for him or whatever is considered stalking yes. Dear it hurts because we desire the most what we can't have. Plus since you don't know him, you have left it up to your imagination and fantasies to fuel your interest in him. This is a rookie move but you will learn from it. I suggest you find another pharmacy and maybe have your friends fix you up on some blind dates with someone they know that is looking. It's time to face reality, and move on.

[haxan]

NO ONE likes rejection, ruzkiss. I don't know what your note said, or if it included a contact number or anything, but it doesn't appear that he's interested.

Personally I think networking through friends, like smackie suggested, is your best bet. When I was single, I was friends with a couple and the female worked in a salon. She had a never ending list of dates for me lined up when I wanted them. It's easy because they know you, and know what you're looking for.

[ruzkiss]

oh no no! I decided to give him a note asking him out but I haven't been able to do it because he hasn't been out on the floor when I go. I just pick up my medication and I leave. I just know he's in his office because I hear the other pharmacists say so. And I don't want to ask to talk to him because I don't want to put him on an ackward situation in front of everybody else. So I just don't know what to do...

[haxan]

Gotcha.

The way it's all described, just handing him a note does seem kind of weird. That kind of thing is much better accomplished in the professional world with business cards, where you 'know' why the person is giving you their card, but it's not awkward because it's done in a professional or semi-professional atmosphere.

That being said, you might not have much opportunity to converse with him. You're probably going to have to wait for the right opportunity and ask him if he's had lunch, or wants to take a coffee break (like was suggested). Either something along those lines, or just get over the crush and move on.