How are you presenting your problems to her? Are you immediatly putting her on the defensive? Do you expect her just to obey you without explaining her side?
but my argument is that, such acts and principles are universal, and not a matter of a difference between man and woman, or dfiferent personalities.
Perhaps that's where your problem is. You are set in your ways and she has no clue what "your way" is. There is not such thing as "universal principles" every relationship has their own rules and regulations and way of showing each other how they love one another and they work together through mutual agreement or compromise when mutual agreement is not forthcoming. Perhaps you should do some explaining nicely when you think she's breached one of YOUR principles and maybe she won't get defensive.
She sounds like she doesn't know that she's doing any thing wrong (and she may not be to some other man) and you just don't know how to communicate with her without making her feel her self-worth is being attacked.
Your problem appears to be caused through a lot of assumptions on your part (re these so called "universal principles") and lack of proper communication by both of you.
Last edited by Wakeup; 04-06-11 at 11:39 PM.
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