How important is common interests important in a relationship to you? I ask this because my boyfriend and I are going through a rough patch, where he doesn't feel we're as compatible as can be. This is because he can't talk to me about certain TV programmes, or films, or quote things to me, like he does with his other friends. This never really proved such a problem, as we used to talk about random things, like Uni and college and music (we both like the same type of music) and the "deep" philosophical things. But this has come up, and it seems we don't have things to talk about. I told him I want to make the effort to get into his interests, and will watch what he wants with him whenever I see him.
One problem is that we have a long distance relationship. I attend University, and usually we can see each other every week or fortnight for a few days. However, I've been home for Christmas and haven't seen him for a few weeks, and it'll be a month when I see him next (next Friday). It's quite hard on us at times. The other problem is that I have very high anxiety, which I suffered from last year with him, and I'm going through it again, and I've been put on antidepressants.
I don't know whether these two things are contributing to the problem, but I'm finding it hard to talk to him. Either I am really anxious and almost afraid to talk, or we need new topics. Usually though, we can talk for hours about random things but it seems to be diminishing. I want to get the spark back, and get back to the way things were, but I don't know how.