Recently bumped into a guy that I had a 'thing' with about a year ago. It was nothing much, he would text me quite a bit and see each other every now and again in clubs, but never actually met up outside of there. Would plan to but never actually do it.
I was out with my boyfriend and my friends this particular night. I saw him earlier on, and when I was alone, he came up to me and asked if he could buy me a drink. I told him thank you but that I wasn't drinking much that night, and said for him to have a good night. He kept following me until I escaped into the female toilets.
Saw him again later and he just kept standing right behind wherever me, my boyfriend and my friends were, sometimes on his own. My best friend already knows about him and told the others, and my boyfriend kicked off at him. We left early because he still hovered around.
Why did he do this? Its not like we were ever serious. He would always text, I would always initate meeting up but he was the one who would make excuses about not meeting. His texts got less frequent and he would start ringing at 3am and things so I decided to ignore him after a while.
My boyfriend says he's fine with it because its not my fault but I still feel awful. I know I wouldn't like it if it was the other way round. We had just had a heart to heart about trusting each other and everything and now I feel like that might have been a waste of time. I don't want this to ruin what I have with my boyfriend. It's not like it was ever actually anything.
Am I over-reacting?
How would you react if this happened to your partner?