Hello everyone I am new to this forum, But I need to talk to some people who dont know me and wont judge me.
Recentley I split with my girlfriend of 3 years, we were in a long distance relationship she was in Georgia (US) and I am in London (UK), when we met I was 27 and she was 20.
We met online in a chat room/forum for music and immediatley hit it off, got talking exchanged numbers and before we knew it were arranging our first meeting a few months after first meeting
one another online. as the relationship progressed we continued to meet up 4 times a year and each time it was for 1-4 months so we spent most of our time together and when we were apart
we spoke on the phone everyday atleast 4-5 times a day. So there was no long distance issues.
3 weeks ago, we had an argument about something irrelevant and I spoke to her sister (whom I have a good brother/sister bond with) because my then girlfriend would not answer the phone
me and her sister spoke and she reassured me it would blow over, after a few hours it blew over, everything was fine and we continued as if nothing happend, the next morning I received a phone call from her saying "do you want my sister are you in love with her?" I was obviously was shocked since she knew exactly how I and her sister were like siblings. I shocked said "thats an odd thing to say but no", we then argued little over the phone and she then said "why dont u come to america over the summer to see me?" and I said I can do that but I cant get 3 months off from work at most 3 weeks however she could always go summer break from college, I said "it wouldnt be feasible and we wont get our summer together" she then proceeded to accuse me of not wanting to spend time with her family but i reassured her we could do it over xmas when i could come over for a month and she would have 1 month off herself. however she flipped out and kept on screaming saying I should
come to america completley disregarding "our summer" we have had for 2 years together and always had, she then stopped speaking to me for that day and said "we are over" in a text message
later she called me and said "i love you lets make up"so I agreed and said ok let by gones be by gones and lets make up I didnt mean to offend you I just want to spend my 3 months with you like I always have done because I love you and i do want to see your family but lets do it when we can spend less time together.
everything was fine for the entire week we carried on speaking as normal, saying "i love you" the usual daily things and one day I am at work and i get a text message from her saying "I am going out tonight with girlfriend jamelia i havent seen her in a while" so i was ofcourse happy for her and said "have fun we will talk later say hi to your friend" she went out that night came home called me we spoke but were both tired so slept, the next morning i went to work and called her on my lunch break like i always have done however there was no answer for 1 hour, so I assumed she may be sleeping or something due to the time difference, so i texted her "are you ok baby did u wake up yet tried to call let me know when your free or awake"
i got a text message back from her "we need to talk call me when you get home", I found this odd she seemed distant so i said "well i have 6 more hours at work please tell me" she then texted
back and said "im breaking up with you i shouldnt have given u a chance last week" I was at this point shocked, confused and hurt, so said "never contact me again" when i came home i tried to
call her since i had cooled down a little however she had changed her mobile number and deleted me off her facebook and blocked her email address, confused and hurt I assumed she may have gone out with another man instead of "jamelia" due to her breaking up at such a perculiar time, however i tried to contact her and said "why are you doing this you just made up with me last week?"
she didnt respond for a few days I assumed it was over and she was just too cowardly to call me and tel me so she had to text me it. I got rid of all the things we shared in my house and tried to forget her,
however 3 days after her "breaking up" she emails me from another unknown email address and says "What are you doing? i miss you" I was obviously really confused but still in love and wanting to hear from her so i said "ok well call me on the house phone you have my number or give me your new cell phone number", she emailed back saying " ok ok will call u in 10 mins"
i waited and waited and waited emailed her again , again she replied "1 hour ill call", i waited i waited i waited
i then sent an email saying "look just tell me where i stand since you contacted me again after dumping me" please just tell me im only asking for mutual respect and an answer.
however no response and she never responded, that was 2 weeks ago, however i see her on twitter/facebook acting all normal talking to friends/guys people as if nothings happend.
since all of this has happened ive been really hurt, downtroden and depressed im thinking why did she play games with my heart after 3 years and why doesnt she miss me or us, when im sat
here seeing everything around me or on tv that reminds me of us.
please someone help
and I am sorry for such a long email I just hope someone reads it.
Sunny