Alright i need some help to know if i am in the wrong and what to do.
I am one year married and we were dating 2 years before hand and we are only 21.. She was my first serious relationship aka the first person i had sex with.. and she had one person before me and we started dating about a month after they broke up.
now she was dating her ex boyfriend for 4 years total. she moved out of state and they were doing a long distance relationship for two years when they broke up and i started dating her. we had it great we dated for 2 years, been married for another it was all great. until the ex-boyfriend started texting her. at first i ignored it and went about the usual stuff. then she started texting him when we were out with friends, she started hiding her phone from me, and constantly changed her password on the phone so that i could never look at it.
i started getting nervous so i tried to be noisy but didn't get anywhere. then i started getting worried and when ever she started texting when we were out with friends i would get really mad, so i slightly ignore her and turn her down for sex.
this lead to huge fights over the weekend i would tell her i didn't like her texting him all the time, and she would say ok.. and do it again. it has been this way for 3 weeks. well just this weekend she did it again. and it gave way to our biggest fight.
she said he said " i want you back, take a plane out here to see me, im sorry i ever dumped out" and that he has been leaving hints and innuendos for the past week. and because i was ignoring her she felt lonely. and she said to me " it was hard for me to say no Ive been so lonely lately" and so on...
Ive asked again for her to stop texting and she says "no i still have a place for him in my heart and i want to stay friends with him, i told him no im not going to have a affair and that i want to stay friends only" then she get angry with me because she thinks i don't trust her enough
I know i was jealous in the beginning and it was wrong to not trust her but if her ex-boyfriend wants her back and she had a hard time saying no. is this a bad sign? she tells me to ignore it and to trust her.
Am i in the wrong if i don't want her texting her ex-boyfriend? and if so how can i get over this, every time we are out and she is texting him i just get very very angry and now that i know he still has felling for her it makes it worse, and if we ever get into any fight im afraid she wont say no to him next time.
if im not in the wrong how do i go about trying to get her to close that chapter in her life and move on? or do i just say go ahead but i don't want to know about it? or what?
Thanks for your comments