I am prepared to have my heart thorn apart by her or wait whatever amount of time for her to be ready, but I don't know where I should go from here to send her my message. I have never been in love before so I have never been chasing for anyone. How should I read the signs she is giving me and how can I go forward at her phase?
Ask her out one-on-one with you. Make sure she knows it's a date by using the word "date." Kiss her on this date which makes it known to her that you want more then to be just another friend that happens to be a boy.
If you don't make a move soon, you are in danger of putting yourself in the Friend Zone. Google "Ladder Theory" and read about ladder placement. You Do Not want to end up on the "friends ladder."
Good luck, let us know what she says about the date request. BTW: If she turns you down, then don't let her do all those things she's been doing that give you mixed signals. Don't let her turn you into her MALE-girlfriend.
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“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion