I've been getting conflicting information about how to use Facebook following a break-up with an ex. I'm a week into no contact, but my ex and I are still friends on Facebook. I've been told if you stop using FB during this time it shows you're hurt and are withdrawing and maybe don't want to see what your ex is up to or hurt them with your new updates. However, I heard it's also a good thing to NOT use FB because it shows you're having a life and aren't worried about being stuck in the internet, and there's a mystery to your new life, as to what you're doing in your free time - Notice how the people with the most FB updates usually have the less productive social lives.
I've also been told that it's a good idea to remove your ex's contacts from all online services except Facebook, since it's very public and chances are they'll see your updates. The updates should be positive and should reflect your new life and that you're moving on. You can also post new photos of yourself having fun or looking attractive or even with other potential love interests as a way to tug at their heart strings. I like this method because it makes you look more desirable and attractive, and that you don't need them to have a good time. And if your goal is to get your ex to contact YOU, it's a good way to get her to see something she might like and respond to it.
I've also been limiting my time on AIM, which shows that maybe I'm away, even if I'm just staying in for the night - It makes it appear as though I'm doing my own thing and going out and having fun.
Any thoughts on these ideas? Any suggestions?