My boyrfriend of four years wants to go to Myrtle Beach with friends.
We have a great relationship and we love each other very much. He is a good man who has been there for me in everything. We do have our issues but nothing that we have been unable to get past.
He plays Warcraft. He plays online 3 nights a week for 3 hours doing these in game things called raids. He has developed some friendships during the course of his gaming and about 10 of these men want to get together at Myrtle Beach during the summer. My boyfriend expressed his desire to go.
I am uncomfortable with this. I am uncomfortable becuase I dont know any of these men. He says they are just going to hang out and probably drink, eat and hang out on the beach for the 5 days he'd be there. Now it's imprtant to note that when we first got together 4 years ago he had gone back home to Indiana and had gone to a strip club with his friends. I found out via his my space and I was angry and hurt. Not because I am some uptight woman but because he made it a point to tell me that he was NOT going to go to strip clubs. I had worried about this for sure only because HE had brought up to me that when he gets to INdy his friend wanted him to go but that he told his friend he wouldn't be going because he didn't feel right doing that while in a relationship. So here Im thinking wow I have this great man who respects me. So he made it clear to me he wouldn't be going to the strip club. However, he did go and it caused a huge problem becaause he LIED to me not because he went.
So now, four years later I am pretty anxious and nervous about what will go on with 10 men, drinking and having no real plan or idea of what they are going to be doing. Im not for the heavey drinking and getting drunk as it seems a bit...childish to be doing that all the time..but the real concern is the drinking and the potential for things to happen that would be bad for our relationship.
I really am uncomfortable with this and I don't want him to go.
Am I being unreasonable?
I know men like to do their thing but when I wanted to go to Los Angeles for a couple of nights with my girlfriends he was adamant that he was not comfortable with it (BTW we were going to a Chris Tomlin concert..very harmless). He said that he didn't know the girls too well and was not comfortable with not knowing what they would want to do. I tried to assure him we would eat, shop and go to the concert only..well needless to say I am not going becuase I know it makes him worry..but really??? I mean I would be going with people I actually know and see in person and NOT people from a game..
ugh..
frustrated.