Well there is a saying: "If you can't take the heat then it's best to get out of the kitchen" Sad thing is Op is that you are viewing this as a who "won" and who 'lost" situation which is all about your ego.
This is a message board where people come to get advice and opinions and if we all had nothing but positive, "what they want to hear" type advice that poo/pooed and coddled then NO ONE WOULD LEARN ANYTHING different then what they they are already doing. Now, if what they were doing was working for them, then this board wouldn't need exist.
There will be differing opinions and if someone challenges yours then why run away from a good debate and a chance to make your point more clear and perhaps even hammering home why you have such a thought?
I found that YOU critiqued others posts far more then anyone often calling people rude for their straight shooting or debating a post to show you didn't agree rather then just addressing the Op... which is what you say in your opening post what you came here to do.
So: If you're incapable of debate and or hearing that your opinion isn't as accepted as you'd hoped it would be then yes, maybe this place isn't the right one for you. However; if you actually came here to give help through your own experience and observations in life then I question why you're leaving because what I or Don'tAsk or anyone else that you may consider a "bully" has nothing to do with your original goal.
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BTW: There is No One on this board that thinks their advice is "above all others." Some people are just seeing things outside of the box and reading between the lines of an opening poster's one sided story.
E.g.: I like to hang out with my male friend but my boyfriend is controlling and insecure. Well.. sorry Op... but you're acting inappropriately with your male "friend" and you would make Jesus insecure. You see in this e.g. the Op fails to see her behaviour is inappropriate for someone who is in a committed monogamous relationship. If we all just concentrated on the question and not looked at the whole picture then how would she ever see where she's causing a lot of her own grief? As the thread goes on, Katyk responds with "wow some of these posts are outright rude and then goes onto debate the opinion of who she thinks has been rude wherein if you (Katyk) had just given your opinon, then you wouldn't have the ego hit you seem to have taken, you'd give your own advice to the op and your day would go on.
BTW: Did you know that starting a flaming thread (like this one) about another poster would likely get You banned in many (most?) other forums?
Be cool and do what you came here to do and like I said, if you can't do that then I wish you well at your next cyber stop.
Last edited by Wakeup; 15-12-14 at 07:41 AM.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion