. I met this guy (let's call him Paul) while on a business trip out of town. We had an instant connection. We exchanged numbers before I left and stayed in contact for a year. We talked casually. I eventually began seeing someone else, but always had Paul in the back of my mind. I ignored him for about 3 months while I was seeing the other man. When I stopped seeing him I regained contact with Paul and we began talking about meeting up. He bugged me to come visit him and I always had some excuse. So he finally made plans to come to me. We met up and spent the entire weekend together and it was incredible. I've never experienced a connection like this in my life. He's not even the type I'm usually attracted to. I was smitten after that weekend.
I decided a few weekends ago to travel down and visit him. Mother nature had extremely bad timing so we couldnt "hold hands". He seemed a little fustrated but for the most part it was a nice visit. I know it's such a woman thing to say but it was the little things that really made me believe he was just as crazy about me....he told his whole family about me....he shared all his hopes and dreams with me he talked about how he wanted a wife and kids... He couldn't keep his hands off me. We agreed that we weren't in anything serious but we were seeing each other.
Then after that weekend everything changed. He seemed distant and didn't contact me as much. The last conversation we had he told me he didnt want a relationship and although he would keep seeing me he wouldnt promise me anything. It stung because it sounds to me like nothing but a let down. It sounded like he just wanted a no-strings-attached kind of deal. Screw that. To me this was your classic case of someone promising you the moon and the stars to get what they really want. So I ended it. I told him that he was full of it and to call me when he grows up. We havent talked for a week. I feel like crap because I was rude the last time we talked but I was angry because it just seemed like everything he said was opposite of all the previous things he said. What gives? Am I wrong for ending it? I don't want to be used. I want to be in a relationship with this man even if it's long distance(2 hours).